We have a myriad of largely subconscious ways of being, thinking, and behaving that we have ‘inherited’ from our environment – our parents, teachers, and fellow life-travelers.
We may have forgotten exactly where, from whom, and why we have taken these patterns on. Everything we learn comes through our experience and our senses… Everything comes from somewhere.
But. While some of these patterns work in our favor, others do not. And since many of them operate from the shadows, it can be a challenge for us to see them and differentiate the good from the not good – we can easily mistake learned patterns for chosen character traits.
Some of these patterns, we label ‘cute’ … others, an issue. But far too many of them, we label “us”.
Many of us do not recognize the need for change. That is until we realize that something within us (that is not us) is stopping us from being who we really can be and actually living the life we want to have.
So, how do we recognize that ‘the things’ we’ve always done have had untold negative consequences on our health, joy, and emotional well-being? How do we unlearn life-long thinking patterns and change the habits that do not, and never did serve us?
You may want to further investigate what distinguishes your conscious mind from your subconscious behavioral patterns; you may want to discover and fully understand why there are a thousand ways to say nothing changes until you change; or reconsider that deepest of questions: Who Am I?
Enter the world of personal growth and transformation, coaching, formal counseling and a host of other tools, people, and organizations. Essentially there’s help when you need it.
No matter what intervention is right and best for you, the one person you will not be able to avoid indefinitely is yourself.
No matter where what you want ‘fixed or changed’ comes from, there is a stage when it’s all up to the choices and decisions you make. This doesn’t suggest that you should not look for help to get there, however, it clarifies your role as the creative director and actor on the stage of your life.
What’s important is that we begin (or get back on) our own hero’s journey – to explore more of how we became who we are … and how to transform our pathways if that’s what we desire and need to do.
Who do you want to be like? I hope it’s your(best)self …